Chances are you’ve got more money in your wallet these days, but it doesn’t feel like it.

The biggest Australian study of income came out this week. It found strong growth on income and wealth among all kinds of households, as this chart of rising incomes shows.

Median equivalised income by family type. Source: HILDA 2016Source:Supplied

But the survey also shows Australia is still a land of poverty and deprivation. The interesting thing is how they go looking for deprivation.

The survey asked thousands of Australians whether dozens of items were essential.

The one thing the most people (99.7 per cent) agreed was essential was medical treatment; the thing the least people (44 per cent) agreed on was a week’s holiday away from home each year. Okay, fine.

But in the middle were some weird results. Fifty-nine per cent said it was essential to have comprehensive car insurance. Hmm. Fifty-five per cent said it was essential to have a car and 79 per cent said a washing machine was essential.

Selected data from HILDA 2016.Source:Supplied

The researchers then used the things a majority of people agreed were essential to measure deprivation. If you don’t have them and couldn’t afford them you are counted as deprived.

In most of the world a car, insurance and your own washing machine would be considered luxuries. They were in Australia, not so long ago. Now, apparently, they are the minimum price of entry to society.

This seems to be the way society goes. It grows richer and richer, but constantly raises expectations so that it gains no lasting dividend from being so much richer. Instead it just gets anguish about missing out.

We are a lucky group of people, and sometimes we forget that. An average Australian is in the richest five per cent of the world for income. Even an Australian in the bottom 10 per cent of the income distribution is still in the top 17 per cent of the world. Why are we still so disgruntled?

Living in a rich country is great. It comes with low crime, nice infrastructure, good health and government services. But the silver lining comes with a cloud.

As society gets richer our cut-off for what counts as poverty and deprivation rises. A lifestyle that would make someone a king in another part of the world makes them miserable here. Our relative poverty line is $23,000 a year, after tax. Relative Poverty stays more or less steady even though absolute poverty — having more than a certain amount — has fallen.

Share of population in income poverty Source: HILDASource:Supplied

We see lots of evidence that rising wealth in rich countries doesn’t lift happiness. America has been doing happiness surveys since 1946 and they show basically no improvement. Even though in that time the average American has doubled their wealth several times.

A BIT OF FRIENDLY COMPETITION?

Getting richer in a country that is getting richer isn’t a good way to get happier. One reason might be that keeping up with the Joneses is stressful. These days you only need to look at Facebook to see your friend’s new car, new motorbike or tropical holiday and feel like you are missing out.

But are the Joneses even happy? We sometimes imagine the incredibly rich must be also incredibly happy, but somehow we know it can’t really be true.

Research from America suggests earning above $75,000 a year doesn’t lead to any increase in happiness (although it does lead people to give more rosy assessments when asked to evaluate their life).

If other people getting richer is not making them happier, and it could be indirectly making us less happy, what are we even doing?!

The solution has to be a society that spends its money on the right things.

Research says we enjoy our money more if we spend it on experiences and time saving. We should do the same thing as a society.

Not just bigger houses and faster cars, but infrastructure to cut down on commuting times, better medical treatment and cheap housing that gives people — if they want to — the chance to get off the treadmill of getting ever richer.

Jason Murphy is an economist. He publishes the blog Thomas The Thinkengine. Follow Jason on Twitter @Jasemurphy